Incorrect diagnosis of gifted people as ADHD or ADD etc.

Giftedness is often overlooked due to a misdiagnosis, such as ADHD or ADD. Gifted people are often wrongly diagnosed with ADHD or ADD, which is completely misplaced.

A short summary of what it means to be gifted:

You have a sharp power of observation.

You experience start-up problems due to perfectionism.

Your intensity can irritate those around you.

You have a broad level of knowledge, which allows you to quickly undermine the opinions of others (you know more). This can lead to people experiencing you as unpleasant.

You have complex relationships with others.

Your intensity, idealism and hypersensitivity make building relationships more difficult.

Here I am describing a possible trauma.

Giftedness is usually genetically determined. If your mother was also gifted, this could make you insecure, because as a child you knew less than she did. Yet she had high expectations and treated you like an adult, while you were still a child. (Read Alice Miller, Drama of the Gifted Child).

Her demanding nature could have led you to develop a personality that now resembles the schizoid type (see Nancy McWilliams’ nine psychodynamic typologies) or the victim type.

Schizoid type: A scientist who isolates himself, an artist.

Victim type: A prey for narcissists and psychopaths.

As a gifted person (hypersensitive), you had to endure the harsh upbringing of a perfectionist mother twice as hard. She was probably overprotective and harshly critical of your performance, which put a lot of pressure on you. She may have had high expectations of you.

Other characteristics:

You have few friends and are often lonely.

At school, your strong will (contradiction) was often seen as difficult and mischievous behavior (not to be confused with the dangerous behavior of psychopaths).

Your humor could be seen as irreverent.

Because you already seemed wise as a child, there is a good chance that your mother told you too much and treated you like an adult.

Lonely mothers in particular can do this, which means that you were never really allowed to be a child. This could result in relationship problems with your family, classmates and teachers.

Gifted people also perform in chaos.

Their parents must accept this and provide light guidance in the areas of organization and self-discipline.

Gifted people can become contrary if they are not understood. For example:

They cannot dress appropriately, which causes them to be bullied at school (not to be confused with borderline people who dress brightly to attract attention).

Creative gifted people (art, music, languages) often make drawings and cartoons at school and can give the impression of being absent.

I myself often got 9's without much effort. This can lead to the attitude: "I can do everything without any effort." This is something that parents should lightly structure with their child.

In gifted people, their intellect is visible early on:

I could already speak in sentences at the age of nine months.

I could draw very well at the age of two.

I was already reading books at the age of four.

Creative gifted people can master something without effort. My father played music without reading notes - my daughter does the same.